Meet Kaela - Anxiety & Relationship Therapist in NYC
You want to stop living in survival mode.
You want to feel less anxious, less overwhelmed, and finally feel safe being yourself. But instead, you feel pressure to hold everything together, take care of everyone else, and keep pushing no matter how tired you are.
And this doesn’t just show up in your day-to-day life. It shows up in your relationships too.
You overthink every text. You question how they feel about you. You feel like you have to prove your worth in dating. You struggle to speak up for your needs or set boundaries. You find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people or repeating the same relationship patterns over and over again.
You want a healthy, secure relationship, but your anxiety keeps getting in the way.
You are not broken, and you do not need fixing. No matter what anyone has said. You just need to come back to your authentic self.
To feel safe in your own body. To trust yourself in dating and relationships. To understand your attachment patterns instead of being controlled by them.
This may seem scary and intimidating…. because those fears and that resistant is normal when you have been used to functioning and living in one way and have to challenge yourself to do different.
I’m here to guide you through that process helping you manage anxiety, heal attachment wounds, and build relationships that actually feel safe, secure, and aligned with you.
I've been there…
I used to believe my worth came from doing everything for others and being the perfect person for everyone. But I was losing myself in the process and only creating more anxiety inside. This showed up in my relationships too constantly overthinking, questioning how others felt about me, and trying to prove my worth.
So I learned to push through, ignore my needs, and put everyone else first, all while burning myself out. I was unsure of who I was and was constantly trying to fit into someone else’s mold, especially in dating and relationships.
Like many of my clients I felt lost, stuck, and anxious.
Here’s what changed. I started taking a pause and asking myself what I needed. I began listening to my needs, giving myself grace, and being kinder to myself instead of putting everyone before me. I started understanding my patterns, my attachment wounds, and how my anxiety was showing up in my relationships.
That shift changed everything.
And now, I help my clients do the same.
You Might Be Feeling…
You might feel like if you don’t take everything on, you won’t accomplish much.
You might feel like you need to be the perfect wife, mom, daughter, or worker and that shows up in your relationships too, always trying to be “enough” for someone.
You might feel like putting others’ needs before yours is the only way to be loved, especially in dating and relationships.
You might feel like you overthink everything in dating questioning texts, intentions, and how someone feels about you.
You might feel anxious in relationships, like you have to prove your worth or fear being left or not chosen.
Many of my clients feel stuck in these patterns, especially in their relationships, where they believe they have to fix themselves to be loved.
But real healing isn’t about fixing who you are.
It’s about letting go of the negative patterns you learned to survive letting go of the beliefs that told you love had to be earned, and understanding how your anxiety and attachment patterns are showing up in your relationships.
It’s about reconnecting with yourself…
with the inner child who was never wrong for having emotions, needs, or wanting to feel safe and loved.
She just never had the space to truly be herself.
And now, you get to give that to yourself.
My Values as a Therapist
As a therapist, I lead with honesty, inclusivity, patience, understanding, curiosity, and collaboration. I believe therapy should feel like a space where you can show up fully as yourself without judgment, pressure, or the need to perform. My role isn’t to tell you who to be. I think it is important to be a human in the room with you and not just a therapist, the human experience and relational experiences is what connects us and that should not be ignored. I want to walk beside you as we explore your experiences, understand your patterns, and create meaningful change together at a pace that feels safe and supportive for you.
More About Kaela the Person
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More About Kaela the Person 〰️
I’m a New York City girl, born and raised, and I love exploring this city as there is endless new things to discover.
Outside of therapy, you can usually find me watching reality TV (I am a Bravo girly… give me housewives give me summer house), listening to house music & going to shows in Brooklyn, staying active through Pilates and strength training, or spending time with my little baby Luna who is a miniature dachshund.
I like you and many women around us have struggled to feel like I can put myself first, say no when I want to, and fully be myself without feeling shame these experiences unite us as women and also make me passionate about my work because I really do get it.
I graduated from John Jay College with a Master’s in Forensic Mental Health Counseling.
I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York State and the founder of She Heals Within Therapy, where I support high-achieving women of color in prioritizing themselves, healing anxiety and trauma, and reconnecting with who they truly are.
I love the work I do and helping strong independent women tackle their mental health.
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Come home to the woman you have always been reach out and I cannot wait to start our work together!